To Write a Book or Not: How to Transform Past Pain into Hope for Others

Has anyone ever told you that you should write a book? That you should write down the story of your life or the story of that one experience you had nobody can believe?

And you said, “Yeah, I should. But I just can’t.”

Me too.

People started telling me that I should write down my story years ago. The first few times it was suggested, I dismissed it right away. It sounded ridiculous. How could I share all that information about myself—and everyone else in my life—with perfect strangers? Not only would I expose myself to all sorts of judgement, I’d be setting off an emotional bomb in my family.

Since then, I've shared a great deal about my life and story on an international level. Not only do I feel liberated by this process, but I’m hearing over and over again from people how my sharing is helping them to reframe their own lives, find healing, and share their stories of healing with a hurting world.

So if you’re considering...

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A message for you when you love and dislike someone at the same time

My uncle died. Sorry to kick this off on a depressing note, but there it is. I’m going to come around to something encouraging shortly, but sometimes, we have to go through the hard stuff to get there, you know?

Like getting through the thick layer of dislikable stuff to find the lovable part of that one family member.

I’ve lost a lot of family members and friends over the years—to cancer, lung disease, addiction, alcoholism, suicide, you name it.

Grief and I are old bedfellows.

But this one is unique. And I’m going to be frank about why, so hold onto your hat.

My uncle was wicked smart, well-traveled at a young age, a real animal lover, a multi-lingual and highly educated man of letters, an eagle scout, and a barbeque connoisseur.

He was also a hoarder and a sociopath.

And he looked at me like I was sex on a stick from the time I can remember. 

Here’s the thing about people who harm us: Sometimes we love them anyway.

My uncle was like...

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5 Stops to Make When You Wake Up Feeling Like a Failure

I woke up this morning about 6 am and did my best with the regular morning stuff.

By 8 am, I felt like I was an utter failure at all the things. All of them. Motherhood, entrepreneurship, online marketing, delegating, deadlines, friendship, you name it.

Do you ever wake up and feel defeated almost before you start?

First, I get pissed.

As I walked around my house turning off lights and adjusting the thermostat, I sent out an “I hate you” to people I can blame for my current obstacles, thought patterns, and core beliefs.

Not surprisingly, this anger at others and the damage they’ve done to me in the past gives me a momentary feeling of righteousness, a stomp-my-foot kind of justification, and a nearly physical rush of power.

But it doesn’t actually make me feel like less of a failure.

It’s at this point in my morning when I realize my thinking is irrational.

People who are failures don’t have thermostats. They can’t pay their light bills so...

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4 Questions to Ask Before You Write a Book About Your Experience

In 2017, a very personal story of mine appeared in SUCCESS magazine. This wasn't a story covering the life of a celebrity or an entrepreneur. It wasn't a piece on how to acquire a vital business skill or a psychological trait that could make or break your success in life.

This article was about me and some brutal truths about my life.

I’ve had countless pieces published, but the fact that this one was going to be on newsstands was terrifying to think about in the days leading up to publication.

Writing about someone else’s struggles is enlightening. Writing about my own was empowering ... but scary.

Know what I mean? I learned a lot from that experience, and I continue to learn as I share my own story. 

If you’re someone who is working toward building a business or writing a book based on what you’ve learned from your story or experiences, you’ll need to ask four big questions to tell your story in the right way.

What's the Point?

Do you want...

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You Don't Have to Be a Natural to Succeed [audio]

What is the most critical skill business owners need to master in order to thrive today?

This was my favorite question asked by Onward Nation host Stephen Woessner, and I’ll tell you why.

Because the one skill that I believe every entrepreneur must have to not only survive but THRIVE in business and in life is completely teachable.

Most people believe this skill is something you’re either born with or not. But I’ve discovered, through countless trials and errors, that it’s something you can learn. I don’t care where you are in your business journey right now—you can learn this vital, make-or-break skill.

Listen now to get my 4-Step Process to harness your inner reserves and develop this critical skill. 

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